There is no doubt that upper middle class Indian society is going through many changes, one of which has enabled girls of this era to think, earn and opine themselves.
In past decade, a fair amount of girls have gotten into career oriented jobs, learned technology and fashion, since they have been catered and pampered by the parents in hope of a better future.
While I was busy studying hard, motivated to hit a mark, despite of my technical education I learned to cook and clean a house, which was mainly by watching my mother.
I fell in love and despite of hearing the horror stories of in laws, I dared hoping for I trusted my good nature so much that I will be totally accepted and loved exactly the same way as in my very own home. latter never came true.
Now I feel that I married in a whim, fancied a lot but I don't complain much since I didn't have much choice either.
In laws behaved as if I was from a different planet, too scared of my ideas and way of being. Very soon I felt that I was smarter than the sisters and mother of my husband, sooner than later I also discovered that I was even smarter than my husband and his father.
In good faith, just like I would suggest a business decision to my father, I would suggest him too, which he would find hard to accept, clearly he had never been with smart women.
He was used to of treating women as less, and hurt as I was soon I left their business and started my own venture, I was convincing enough to my husband and he too left it. In two years time, as Me and my husband started growing in our job and venture, my mother in law died , my father in law went bankrupt and my sister in laws didn't want to come out of their ego castles, and they lost all their beauty gaining so much fat, accumulating all possible diseases, since they had never treated me well, they didn't have a right to be rightfully asking for any help, though sometimes I would help them out of kindness.
But I know for sure, they would have wanted more. Through such activities I realized that they were not only dumb, they were equally thank less fellows.
The upbringing my mother in law had given to her family was clearly not enough, everything had broken and I could see.
They were a rich family and they thought its gonna remain the same.
In last six years many of my friends got married, and most of them reside alone, they too go to work and are earning as much as their husbands and are in fact sometimes more than them.
Trust is when we are sure that someone would try a little more than his or her competence to make me happy.
When I wake up before my husband to prepare his breakfast and help him get ready for work, I know and he knows he is being pampered, he leaves for office just like a school kid with the tiffin packed and in well ironed clothes.
later when he comes back the lunch is served on the table and we relish, then is my time to rest and I have to take classes in the evening.
Now as my husband's day is over he spends this time surfing or watching porn, while I had to take my evening classes and prepare the dinner.
It's not that I haven't asked him lovingly to help me. But there is a basic desire missing to help me grow, he doesn't want to learn about me, and he is too busy in his own world.
My complaints are all baseless, even offering me a glass of water is too tough for him, He doesn't want to be disturbed. The only way that's left to me is focus on myself, much in the same way like once I left his family to ruin itself, I can see him being ruined.
Either I will have to be totally responsible and run the household, feeding while I remain hungry in hope that someday the person might change, or I will just have to leave the dream of a fulfilling relationship.
In past decade, a fair amount of girls have gotten into career oriented jobs, learned technology and fashion, since they have been catered and pampered by the parents in hope of a better future.
While I was busy studying hard, motivated to hit a mark, despite of my technical education I learned to cook and clean a house, which was mainly by watching my mother.
I fell in love and despite of hearing the horror stories of in laws, I dared hoping for I trusted my good nature so much that I will be totally accepted and loved exactly the same way as in my very own home. latter never came true.
Now I feel that I married in a whim, fancied a lot but I don't complain much since I didn't have much choice either.
In laws behaved as if I was from a different planet, too scared of my ideas and way of being. Very soon I felt that I was smarter than the sisters and mother of my husband, sooner than later I also discovered that I was even smarter than my husband and his father.
In good faith, just like I would suggest a business decision to my father, I would suggest him too, which he would find hard to accept, clearly he had never been with smart women.
He was used to of treating women as less, and hurt as I was soon I left their business and started my own venture, I was convincing enough to my husband and he too left it. In two years time, as Me and my husband started growing in our job and venture, my mother in law died , my father in law went bankrupt and my sister in laws didn't want to come out of their ego castles, and they lost all their beauty gaining so much fat, accumulating all possible diseases, since they had never treated me well, they didn't have a right to be rightfully asking for any help, though sometimes I would help them out of kindness.
But I know for sure, they would have wanted more. Through such activities I realized that they were not only dumb, they were equally thank less fellows.
The upbringing my mother in law had given to her family was clearly not enough, everything had broken and I could see.
They were a rich family and they thought its gonna remain the same.
In last six years many of my friends got married, and most of them reside alone, they too go to work and are earning as much as their husbands and are in fact sometimes more than them.
Trust is when we are sure that someone would try a little more than his or her competence to make me happy.
When I wake up before my husband to prepare his breakfast and help him get ready for work, I know and he knows he is being pampered, he leaves for office just like a school kid with the tiffin packed and in well ironed clothes.
later when he comes back the lunch is served on the table and we relish, then is my time to rest and I have to take classes in the evening.
Now as my husband's day is over he spends this time surfing or watching porn, while I had to take my evening classes and prepare the dinner.
It's not that I haven't asked him lovingly to help me. But there is a basic desire missing to help me grow, he doesn't want to learn about me, and he is too busy in his own world.
My complaints are all baseless, even offering me a glass of water is too tough for him, He doesn't want to be disturbed. The only way that's left to me is focus on myself, much in the same way like once I left his family to ruin itself, I can see him being ruined.
Either I will have to be totally responsible and run the household, feeding while I remain hungry in hope that someday the person might change, or I will just have to leave the dream of a fulfilling relationship.
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